Sign up for volunteer training with STAND!

Interesting in volunteering with STAND!? Sign-ups are open for trainings through the end of the year. The training is interactive, engaging and each tier is designed to develop the skills you will need for your intended volunteer role(s). When you join STAND! as a trained volunteer, you become an integral part of our movement to end the cycle of family violence in Contra Costa County. 

Members of our newest class of volunteers share what they learned after completing training Tiers 1 and 2 last month: 

“I feel there is so much I can do and it can be overwhelming and a little exhausting just to think about, but we need to take everything a step at a time and I am ready for that step!”
“I used to feel helpless about family violence, especially since I experienced it as a child. But after two tiers of training, I realized there is so much I can do to help and I'm feeling more comfortable about discussing it openly in order to help victims. I also now believe that abusers need counseling and other help, not just punishment, in order to end the cycle of violence.”
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“Family violence is a public health problem, not a secret conflict that should only be handled by family members. Educating the community about family violence is integral to reducing the shame and stigma that surrounds family violence so that more can be done to combat it.”
“I love that STAND! relies on volunteers to keep its organization going and that nonprofit organizations are allowed to exist with community support.”

 

To find out more about volunteering at STAND!, please click here

Emergency Kit Drive: STAND! with Mt. Diablo Business Women

When a survivor leaves a violent relationship, they often walk out with nothing more than the clothes on their back. Some clients come to STAND! having just fled their abuser, leaving behind their homes, their cars, their clothes and everything else they own. That's why STAND!'s Emergency Response Team provides Emergency Kits to survivors and their children when they take them to a safe place. These kits have everything a survivor needs to comfortably get through the night and begin the process of rebuilding the next morning, including a toothbrush, toothpaste, a clean change of clothes and a meal. 

The Mt. Diablo Business Women are hosting a donation drive to collect personal care items for STAND!'s Emergency Kits. Brand new, unopened items will be assembled into kits that will be ready for the team as the need arises.Their goal is to assemble 50 bags and they need your help! To get involved, please visit mtdiablobusinesswomen.org or call 707-567-5016. 

STAND! thanks the Mt. Diablo Business Women for their advocacy and generosity. Together, we can Save Lives, Rebuild Families and Change the Future. 

News of the Week

A weekly roundup of family violence-related stories from across the web.

‘You took away my worth’: A sexual assault victim’s powerful message to her Stanford attacker

"My independence, natural joy, gentleness, and steady lifestyle I had been enjoying became distorted beyond recognition. I became closed off, angry, self-deprecating, tired, irritable, empty. The isolation at times was unbearable. You cannot give me back the life I had before that night either."                                       —The Washington Post

3 Harmful Myths About Domestic Violence

"Not all domestic violence victims act the same; they’re people just like the rest of us. Sometimes they’re happy, and sometimes they’re not. Domestic abuse doesn’t remove the right to have fun with friends, and it certainly doesn’t eliminate a victim’s personality."     —Motto

Hard times, hard love: Rise of intimate partner violence during Great Recession

"Financial strain has long been one of the leading causes of family discord, but a recent study suggests that simply living through major economic recessions increases a mother's chance of suffering from domestic violence."               —Science Daily

Post-Traumatic Stress: Treatable, normal response to abnormal events

"Some experts suggest that it is more appropriate to talk about Post-Traumatic Stress Injury instead of using the label of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is important to recognize that PTS is not some disease you catch; it is the result of experiencing a severe trauma, and then responding to that trauma in a very human way." —U.S. Army

News of the Week

A weekly roundup of family violence-related stories from across the web.

If Amber Heard Were Your Friend, Here's What You Could Say To Her

"As domestic abuse survivor and activist Leslie Morgan Steiner put it, 'Abuse thrives only in silence' — and yet we don't know how to broach the subject of abuse with the very people in our lives we suspect are experiencing it. And we don't know how to respond when people we care about tell us that they have been abused."  —Refinery 29

The Bogus Murder Confession That Changed How I Investigate Family Violence

"It isn’t just the threat of physical violence that makes a victim compliant to the wishes of their abuser, but also the steady drip, drip, drip psychological effect that leaves them feeling helpless, hopeless, and utterly dependent upon the very person who abuses them." —The Marshall Project

Nice Guys Can Commit Domestic Violence Too

"This is a case of the “Nice Guy” – people whose charming or kind public personas are at odds with the suggestion that they could be a perpetrator of domestic violence. It is the antithesis of the common myth that the perpetrator must be a monster."  —Buzzfeed News

News of the Week

A weekly roundup of family violence-related stories from across the web.

17 Powerful Tweets That Remind Us How Damaging Emotional Abuse Can Be

"The tweet and its hashtag struck a major nerve, and it has since sparked a far-reaching discussion on Twitter — hundreds of women have used the hashtag to share their own experiences and educate one another about the many ways abuse can manifest."—Huffington Post

Domestic Violence Doesn't Always Look Like It Does in the Movies. I Would Know

"He grabbed my arm and left bruises, noticed only by my most observant friends. Still, when I told someone he had been physically abusive, she responded,  'But he didn't, like, beat you, did he?'"—Greatist

Advocates' hopes high for domestic violence hotline for Native women

"With the help of the National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center, the tribal hotline will offer crisis intervention, safety planning assessments and referrals to local resources tailored to Native women." —Cronkite News
 

Support the East Bay community with East Bay GIves

Update: Due to severe technical difficulties on May 3 that limited the effectiveness of online giving campaigns across the country, East Bay Gives has been extended to 11:59 pm on May 4. 

Today is ‪#‎EastBayGives‬ a 24-hour online giving event to fundraise for nonprofits that help make the East Bay a great place to live. 

Last year, donors like you helped STAND! raise over $850 for programs that save lives, rebuild families and change the future for Contra Costa residents. Today, our goal is to raise $1,800 in 24 hours. The East Bay Community Foundation will be giving away great prizes all day long to nonprofits whose donors give during certain hours.

Between the hours of 9am and 10am today, STAND! has the opportunity to win up to $6,000 in prizes—enough to surpass our goal AND operate our 24-hour, toll-free Crisis Line for over 5 days! 

To help STAND! win these prizes, you can join us tomorrow, May 3 between 9am and 10am and:

  • Fill in the form below OR click this link: https://eastbaygives.org/npo/stand-for-families-free-of-violence
  • Click the "Donate Now" button. Minimum gift allowed through the East Bay Gives platform is $20. Gifts of all sizes are welcome and appreciated.
  • Click "Submit"
  • Share with your online community and let them know why you give back to East Bay nonprofits by posting on social media with the hashtag #EastBayGives

If you are unable to give between 9am and 10am, don't worry—there are Golden Ticket awards available every hour of the day for a random nonprofit that receives a donation of any size during that hour.  

Thank you for your support and please like and share with friends and family.

News of the Week

A weekly roundup of family violence-related stories from across the web.

The Aftermath Of Domestic Violence In Rural Northern California

“I never called the police,” one survivor says on a confidential survey posted to local social media groups, “I wasn’t sure if they would respond. I wasn’t confident that I could adequately describe the incident, and I feared the perpetrator coming after me.” —Jefferson Public Radio

When Love Hurts

"In many ways, domestic abuse has been normalized through the pop culture we consume [...] The way we have been socialized makes it hard for women to identify abusive behavior as abusive, rather than just an extravagant act of love, and also makes it hard for women to be taken seriously when they are abused." —The Crimson

The Economic Scars of Domestic Abuse

"The NNEDV has found that financial abuse is a powerful way of trapping victims in their situations, and a survey of survivors showed that 98 percent of abusive relationships involve financial abuse." —The Atlantic

April is child Abuse Awareness Month

We need to talk about child abuse prevention. Every day in the United States, between 4 and 7 young lives are ended by child abuse and neglect. From last year’s torture and murder of two young children in Redding to recent allegations of child abuse by a babysitter in Livermore, it is clear that our communities are suffering from one of the worst forms of violence, one that is made even more tragic by the fact that it is so easily preventable.

At STAND! For Families Free of Violence, we believe that the best way to prevent child abuse is through education and support for the whole family. As the leading provider of family violence services in Contra Costa County, STAND! empowers over 15,000 women, children and men each year to live violence-free lives and build safe and strong families. From free early childhood development programs, to parenting classes for new parents who have decided that the cycle of violence ends with them, to trauma-informed care for children and families at our emergency shelter, STAND! is committed to helping families develop healthy, nonviolent behaviors that break the cycle of family violence.

“Child abuse is such an important part of the problem of family violence,” explains Gloria Sandoval, Chief Executive Officer of STAND!. “Children who are abused by those who should be protecting them bear the scars of this trauma if they do not receive healing interventions.  Too often this unhealed trauma results in becoming a victim of domestic violence or perpetrating violence as an adult.”

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. This month and throughout the year, STAND! For Families Free of Violence encourages all individuals and organizations to play a role in making Contra Costa County a better place for children and families. By ensuring that parents have the knowledge, skills and resources they need to care for their children, we can help prevent child abuse and neglect. By making meaningful connections with children, youth and families in our communities, we can spread awareness of family violence and work together to end the multi-generational cycle once and for all.

“Providing children and youth with a safe environment doesn’t stop with the family, says Sharon Turner, Prevention Services Director at STAND! “As part of the community we all have a part to play to ensure safe environments in the schools, places of worship and neighborhoods. 

To help children who are at risk or are victims of violence, you can donate to STAND! by visiting support.standffov.org.  For more information about child abuse prevention programs and activities during the month of April and throughout the year, email info@standffov.org or go to standffov.org. Together, we can make our community safer for children and families.

STAND!ing Ovation: Pamela Miles

Our March 2016 STAND!ing Ovation goes to Pamela Miles, who began volunteering with STAND! last year. As a professional in the legal field, Pamela was looking for an opportunity to serve family violence victims more directly.

“Family violence is the reason I decided to attend law school,” Pamela says.  “After moving back to the Bay Area almost two years ago, I wanted to return to volunteering for a cause I was passionate about.”

She joined STAND! as a Crisis Line volunteer in 2015 and has been a consistent source of support since.

“Pamela came into the work initially with an understandable level of anxiety but unbeknownst to her, she has grown to tremendous heights as a service provider, an advocate, and in her capacity to be present for callers in ways that has undeniably saved lives,” says Deborah Son, Crisis and Emergency Response Services Manager. “At a moment's notice, Pamela is always willing and eager to support the team and we at STAND! would not be able to sustain programs such as the Crisis Line without phenomenal persons such as her.”

While her dedication to crisis intervention deserves a STAND!ing Ovation in its own right, it is through her advocacy for STAND! that Pamela truly shines. Pamela is someone whose passion and enthusiasm for STAND! has the ability to inspire others to take action. By spreading the word about STAND!’s mission and impact in the community, Pamela has motivated a whole new family of volunteers to come join in our work to end the cycle family violence.

“I consider her my STAND! ambassador,” says Volunteer Coordinator Gretchen Ellis. “Every month, I have at least one new volunteer coming in saying they were encouraged by Pamela to join STAND!”

Thank you, Pamela, for using your voice to support survivors and to amplify STAND!’s message in the community. 

News of the Week

A weekly roundup of family violence-related stories from across the web.

Clarence Thomas Breaks 10-Year Silence to Question Domestic Violence Gun Ban

"The question came at the end of the justices’ question time in Voisine v. United States, a case in which two Maine men convicted of domestic violence are claiming that they should be exempt from the Lautenberg Amendment's prohibition." —The Trace

This tattoo artist helps heal victims of domestic violence and self-harm

"Each situation is different: he's tattooed over scars from violence, fixed a tattoo that was ruined from self-inflicted wounds, and created new tattoos for victims who don't have scars." —Today

Sex Abuse, Drugs, Lack of Food Pose 'Immediate Risk' to Kids at State-Funded Group Homes

"[T]he Investigative Unit found evidence of 815 violations at Bay Area group homes that posed an "immediate risk" to children and teens over the past five years." —NBC Bay Area

China Makes Domestic Abuse an Actual Crime

"Starting Tuesday, victims will be able to get restraining orders against their abusers, sometimes forcing them out of the home. " —New York Magazine